- Letting go of my fear of change. I like routines. Structure. But it was obvious to me that my old routine wasn’t serving me. It was part of what brought me to the brink. Letting go of my fear of changing my routine was a key step to healing.
- Acknowledging when I’m overwhelmed. I’ve never been good at standing up for myself. I’d say yes to too many things and not speak up when I needed help. When I start to feel overwhelmed now, I try to make myself stop, think of what I need, and ask for help if I need it.
- Communicating better in general. I was also an expert at squashing down my thoughts and feelings, thinking of other people’s comfort first. These last couple years, I’ve made progress at speaking up for myself and sharing how I feel.
- Progress over perfection. Another place I tend to get stuck – wanting everything to be exactly right before I move forward. I’ve learned that making progress towards my goals is much more important than being perfect at everything.
- Setting SMART goals. Specific. Measurable. Accountable. Realistic. Time Bound. Setting goals in this format has given me clear benchmarks to work towards, with so much less time trying to figure out what to do next.
- Daily oranges and skittles. My daily OolaPlan. The three non-negotiable steps I take towards my goals daily, and all the other everyday tasks that need to get done. My daily notecard is a requirement.
- Changing what I eat. It hasn’t been easy, and I’ve struggled with having to eliminate certain foods, but changing what I eat has had a huge impact on improving my autoimmune condition and my mood.
- Changing the products I use. Over the last several years, I’ve switched out many of the household and personal care products that I use to non-toxic options, again helping me improve my mental and physical health.
- Releasing toxic people. Part of assessing your OolaFamily and OolaFriends includes looking at what relationships are toxic to your wellbeing. I’ve made progress with releasing these toxic people from my life, and my mental health is all the better for it.
- Meditation practice. Morning and night, ten minutes at a time. Quieting my mind and acknowledging and releasing thoughts has been so fantastically beneficial. This is a practice I truly can’t do without.
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