- Love. Finding a way to love myself again was the first step to overcoming my self-sabotage. It had been so long since I allowed myself to feel worthy of love, especially from myself. I never thought myself worthy of my goals, which would lead to self-sabotage. By loving myself again, by deeming myself worthy, I was able to take those first steps towards diffusing the bomb.
- Discipline. Setting SMART goals that are specific, easy to measure, and held to timelines has helped to strengthen my discipline. Throw in the amazing support of an accountability partner, and you’ve got the beginnings to a lifetime of growing your ability to stay disciplined.
- Integrity. Honesty, with both myself and my accountability partner, on where I’m actually at with my SMART goals and whether I’ve actually completed the steps I intended to take for the day, makes it harder to light the fuse of the self-sabotage bomb. I have someone to kick my ass in gear, and I have my own self-love, my own desires, to disappoint if I don’t stay true to my promises.
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