When Being an Adult Doesn’t Make Belonging Any Easier

How many of us have reached our adult years, looked around at everything we have going on, and wished we had an “adultier adult” to help us handle things?

 

And that sometimes includes wishing that adultier adult could help us figure out where we belong.

 

Just because we’re out in the world, working, doing our own thing, doesn’t mean that we feel as though we belong any more than we did when we were kids or teenagers or young adults.

 

As you look back on milestones past, how has your sense of belonging evolved? Do you suddenly feel more included in your friend circles? Has that ever-present ache in your gut, that unsure slouch to your shoulders suddenly vanished, because your adult self feels sure of your sense of belonging? 

 

Or do you still sit with that ache, always feeling on the verge of exhausted tears by the end of the day?

 

What about your tribe of friends? How have they evolved? Are you still tagging along with the same group? 

 

Or are you still looking in from the outside, watching as they grow and thrive together, while you still wait in the shadows, unsure of how you fit in the puzzle, unsure of who you are at your core?

 

For most of us, it’s the latter questions for each situation. We still feel we are on the outside, with our feelings of inadequacy and tired pain sitting with us day in and day out.

 

Our likes and our interests may still be considered weird or nerdy or “out there” to most people. But as we branch out into the world further, away from the bubbles we’ve always known or tried to be part of, we hope that we may find a somewhat larger group of people that share our interests, that we could find community and belonging with.

 

But these communities aren’t exactly easy to find when we’re not confident in putting ourselves out there. And we’re often too socially awkward to make that first move to initiate a friendship when we do find someone we connect with, so, unless they make that first move, we end up never knowing whether that community or belonging could have been there.

 

What if you could find a community of women who were weird and nerdy and out there, just like you? A community of women who were also looking for their place in the world, who are usually nervous about putting themselves out there to find their tribe?

 

We’re fostering a community of weird, nerdy women like this, where we can all be our weird, nerdy selves without judgment, without being on the outside, and without fear of being rejected for being us. Come join us there and see if it would be a good fit for you.